Skip to main content

FATHERLESS DAUGHTER SYNDROME

 "Since childhood, fathers have a critical impact on their daughters’ lives as they are both their first guides to the outside world and their first reflections of themselves, symbol of recognition of their own value. A healthy and uninterrupted relationship between a father and a daughter greatly helps to create a positive self-image and therefore will have a positive influence on her aspirations and relationships. When this relationship is suddenly broken for some reason, the daughter’s cycle of identity development is also interrupted. Adolescence and preadolescence are critical times where young women build themselves: their body change, they make a transition from girls to young women, and in this transition, the father’s role is important. " - Source: https://medium.com/@andreabomo/why-we-should-all-care-about-the-fatherless-daughter-syndrome-5fe527e22cc5

At the age of 5, I inherited some of the traits from father absence and abandonment. At the age of 13 which was in 1989, my father remarried.

As a high school student from 1991 - 1993, I was always surrounded by men and had numerous opportunities where I was able to share my skills and talents in the area of the arts in schools and galleries.

As an adult, I lost several of my god fathers due to heart attack which include Doc Barnett Williams and Tony Duncanson.

One of the reasons why I work with Esther Productions, Inc since 2004, is because it gives me the opportunity to touch other girls and women through my own personal and professional style in the area of arts and education.

If you have not experienced this issue, please do not judge others that have.

Popular posts from this blog

Canvas of creative expressions

  Canvas of creative expressions. Digital art created on canvas. September 1, 2024. Afrika Abney The artwork serves as a testament to the limitless possibilities of creative expression, showcasing how digital mediums can transform simple colors into a profound experience. The radiant yellows symbolize optimism and joy, while the fiery oranges ignite passion and enthusiasm. Meanwhile, the deep purples add a layer of mystery and depth, creating a harmonious balance that draws the eye and stirs the imagination. This piece is not just a painting; it is an invitation to explore the depths of one's own creativity. The new month has just begun, it promises to be a new month filled with a canvas of creative expressions, where I will not only share my new digital art but also a series of thought-provoking blog posts filled with new ideas and new colors. As I get ready for the upcoming weeks, a vibrant tapestry of colors, optimism, and uplifting ideas fills my mind. I am excited about the op...

CHANGE OF LOCATION: Discovering Me Summit and Awards Ceremony

  CHANGE OF LOCATION: Discovering Me Summit and Awards Ceremony https://www.estherproductionsinc.com/events-1/the-discovery-summit-and-scholarship-awards-ceremony Dec 10, 11:00 AM – 1:00 PM EST The Woman's National Democratic Club, 1526 New Hampshire Ave. NW About the event Each year since 2019, Esther Productions Inc. has presented a unique scholarship essay contest that invites young ladies aged 13 through 18 to submit essays that tell their stories about growing up without their fathers and building their resilience as they face that challenge. A group of accomplished artists, educators, clinicians, business and civic leaders serve as judges. Cash prizes, ranging from $1500 to $500, are given to the top winners during the Discovery Summit and Scholarship Awards Ceremony.  This year, the event is presented in cooperation with The Black Student Fund.  Anita Josey-Herring, chief judge of the Superior Court of the District of Columbia, will provide remarks and present awar...

Father/Daughter Relationships

  Father and daughter is a "complex one, and all the more so given that it has perhaps been explored less than other relationships."  Unfortunately, the kind of relationship that I have had with my father is the disappointed daughter. I feel as though that my father was a stranger that I met on the street because of the type of relationship that I had with him. It's a chilly relationship between the pair of us, and I am quite aware of this. I became distanced with him when I was 13 which was in the Summer of 1989.  I grieved for the father that I could not have for many years. When I was growing up, I experienced all of the symptoms of father-shaped gap. Yet this has also made me slightly distant with other people, especially men, who I always fear will disappoint me. I feel persistent regret at the fact that I missed the opportunity to know my father because he divorced my mother and remarried when I was 13. This creat...

Vibrant Imperfections

   Labor Day occurred on Monday, September 2, 2024, a date that marked the creation of my work titled "Vibrant Imperfections." Quote found on the Internet “Within the sphere of abstract art, the embrace of imperfections acts as a compelling testament to the inherent beauty present in everyday lives. Each stroke of the brush and selection of color can convey a story that resonates deeply with the observer, prompting them to uncover significance within the seemingly aspects of the artwork. This exploration invites viewers to engage with the art on a personal level, fostering a connection that transcends traditional interpretations. The state of urban sidewalks and roadways often reflects a less-than-perfect reality, marked by the inevitable signs of aging and the impact of human activity. These surfaces narrate their own tales, showcasing the natural imperfections that characterize the environment. Throughout my career as a professional visual artist and art consultant, I have ...

Pandemic Affect on Consultants

  The pandemic has had a profound impact on consultants, influencing various aspects of their professional lives, including mental health, economic stability, and social interactions. For instance, Ms. Afrika Abney found it necessary to cancel all her scheduled meetings with prospective clients, which significantly hindered her ability to connect and engage with them during this challenging period. The abrupt shift in the business landscape forced many consultants, including Ms. Abney, to reassess their strategies and adapt to the new normal.  As a consultant specializing in services for small businesses and nonprofit organizations, Ms. Abney faced considerable obstacles in delivering her offerings effectively due to the stringent restrictions and regulations imposed since March 9, 2020. The ongoing challenges made it increasingly difficult for her to ensure the success of her services, as the traditional methods of engagement were no longer viable. This situation necessitated...

MEET CREATIVE WELLNESS EXPERT JENNIFER Y. OKOSUN AT WOMEN BLOSSOMING

  A creative writer, author of the blog Power upWell, speaker and creative entrepreneur,   Jennifer taught herself as a child to use the arts to cope with trauma. As an adult she   used them to heal. Jennifer has facilitated several workshops locally and nationally on self-care and   healing from trauma. ON MAY 6 at 3:00 pm during the WOMEN BLOSSOMING, she   will share her expertise, teaching you what she knows while helping you as you move   on your path to greater empowerment. COME CELEBRATE YOURSELF! YOU DESERVE IT! Register at   www.estherproductionsinc. com/events-1/women-blossoming- a-traditional-tea-celebration- to-inspire-and-empower-girls- and-women-16-and-older Esther Productions, Inc. is a Washington, DC-based national nonprofit organization. Founded in 2004, it is dedicated to inspiring and empowering girls and women. It is supported through generous contributions from Kerry S. Pearson LLC, Emmanuel Bailey, Veterans Services Corp, Pepco, an...

Efforts

"The effort is the time, energy and emotional labor devoted to completing a task — and the rewards are what you get back from your workplace, such as compensation, benefits, recognition and opportunities." Quote found on the Internet Since 2018, I have redirected my professional efforts away from educational services. With the onset of the pandemic, I transitioned to offering all my services online, a practice I maintained from March 9, 2020, until August 2023. In November 2021, I launched a branding blog, which I have consistently updated and can be accessed at msafrikaabney.blogspot.com.