"Since childhood, fathers have a critical impact
on their daughters’ lives as they are both their first guides to the
outside world and their first reflections of themselves, symbol of
recognition of their own value. A healthy and uninterrupted relationship
between a father and a daughter greatly helps to create a positive
self-image and therefore will have a positive influence on her
aspirations and relationships. When this relationship is suddenly broken
for some reason, the daughter’s cycle of identity development is also
interrupted. Adolescence and preadolescence are critical times where
young women build themselves: their body change, they make a transition
from girls to young women, and in this transition, the father’s role is
important. " - Source:
https://medium.com/@andreabomo/why-we-should-all-care-about-the-fatherless-daughter-syndrome-5fe527e22cc5
At
the age of 5, I inherited some of the traits from father absence and
abandonment. At the age of 13 which was in 1989, my father remarried.
As
a high school student from 1991 - 1993, I was always surrounded by men
and had numerous opportunities where I was able to share my skills and
talents in the area of the arts in schools and galleries.
As an adult, I lost several of my god fathers due to heart attack which include Doc Barnett Williams and Tony Duncanson.
One
of the reasons why I work with Esther Productions, Inc since 2004, is
because it gives me the opportunity to touch other girls and women
through my own personal and professional style in the area of arts and
education.
If you have not experienced this issue, please do not judge others that have.
Father and daughter is a "complex one, and all the more so given that it has perhaps been explored less than other relationships." Unfortunately, the kind of relationship that I have had with my father is the disappointed daughter. I feel as though that my father was a stranger that I met on the street because of the type of relationship that I had with him. It's a chilly relationship between the pair of us, and I am quite aware of this. I became distanced with him when I was 13 which was in the Summer of 1989. I grieved for the father that I could not have for many years. When I was growing up, I experienced all of the symptoms of father-shaped gap. Yet this has also made me slightly distant with other people, especially men, who I always fear will disappoint me. I feel persistent regret at the fact that I missed the opportunity to know my father because he divorced my mother and remarried when I was 13. This creat...